This article presents the views on love and happiness of the famous and somewhat scandalous Russian psychologist, Mikhail Labkovsky. His statements evoke conflicting feelings in my mind. On the one hand, I understand and agree with him, but on the other hand, following his rules could dramatically change your life. Are we ready for this? "A healthy person loves only those who love him or her. All others are not interesting to the healthy person," this is one of the most striking statements of Mikhail Labkovsky. This statement is unusual and explains a lot, like many other words of Mikhail Labkovsky, immediately drawing attention to him and his teaching. Before the speech “About love and happiness: where to find it and how to keep it,” the psychologist immediately said that the lecture itself would take no more than 15 minutes, the rest of the time he would answer questions. “This is not a lecture, when a lecturer talks for two hours, you sleep, and then we disperse,” he said ...
Hey everyone, I've been thinking about the seasons lately. How nature doesn't hold onto things forever, right? Leaves fall, snow melts, and everything makes space for something new to grow. And I realized that we need to practice that same gentle art in our own lives: the art of letting go . It’s one of the hardest things to do, isn't it? We hold onto old hurts, old expectations of ourselves, old ideas about who we "should" be, or even old possessions that clutter up our minds and our homes. We cling to things because they're familiar, even if they aren't serving us anymore. That grip, though, it costs us so much energy. Letting go isn't about forgetting, and it's definitely not about weakness. It’s actually a beautiful, quiet act of immense strength. It's about looking at something — a painful memory, a friendship that has run its course, a version of yourself that no longer fits — and gently releasing it. It’s saying, "Thank you for the...
Hey beautiful souls, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about power lately, and what it really means, especially for women. In our society, power often feels like it needs to be loud, visible, and aggressive — you know, the big achievements, the titles, the hustle. But I think there's a totally different, much softer, and more profound kind of power that often goes unnoticed, and that is the quiet power of being underrated . It's the strength you build when no one is watching, when you’re doing the work, healing, learning, and growing, all behind the scenes. It’s the resilience you develop when people underestimate you, because you have all this beautiful depth and wisdom that they simply haven't bothered to see. This quiet power is truly feminine. It’s about being the deep root system that keeps the whole tree standing, even when all the attention is on the colorful leaves. It's the ability to observe, to listen, to process, and to move with gentle purpose, without nee...
I’ve been thinking a lot about the word “busy.” It feels like everywhere you look, being busy is this badge of honor, right? Like if you’re not running on empty, you’re not doing enough, or you’re not enough. We’re taught to hustle, hustle, hustle, and then hustle some more. But lately, I’ve been feeling this deep pull to just… stop. To give myself permission to rest. And not just resting because I'm totally exhausted — which, let's be real, happens a lot — but resting as a conscious choice. As an intentional way to be. I used to think that real feminine strength was all about endurance, about always pushing through, no matter how tired you were. And sure, sometimes you have to do that. But I’m starting to see that true strength is also knowing when to hit pause. It’s about being gentle with yourself, even when the world is demanding so much. For me, stepping back isn't about giving up. It’s about refilling my cup so I actually have something to pour out later. It’s about h...