This article presents the views on love and happiness of the famous and somewhat scandalous Russian psychologist, Mikhail Labkovsky. His statements evoke conflicting feelings in my mind. On the one hand, I understand and agree with him, but on the other hand, following his rules could dramatically change your life. Are we ready for this? "A healthy person loves only those who love him or her. All others are not interesting to the healthy person," this is one of the most striking statements of Mikhail Labkovsky. This statement is unusual and explains a lot, like many other words of Mikhail Labkovsky, immediately drawing attention to him and his teaching. Before the speech “About love and happiness: where to find it and how to keep it,” the psychologist immediately said that the lecture itself would take no more than 15 minutes, the rest of the time he would answer questions. “This is not a lecture, when a lecturer talks for two hours, you sleep, and then we disperse,” he said ...
Mikhail Labkovsky is a renowned psychologist whose 30-year practice and personal experiences have resulted in six rules that consistently help people overcome neurosis. Like many professionals in his field, he was motivated to enter the profession due to his own struggles and found success in his work. Mikhail created his six rules to help people find peace, confidence, and happiness. Although, these rules are known to be quite radical but effective in dealing with neurosis. Who can benefit from these rules? The rules can be helpful for anyone who is struggling in life and may not be able to see the positive aspects of the world. However, they are particularly recommended for neurotics, as they often have deeply ingrained patterns of behavior that need to be broken and replaced with new ones. It's worth noting that while the rules are designed for neurotics, they assume a baseline of mental health and healthy desires. Any issues related to mental illness should be addressed by a p...
Hey everyone, I've been thinking about our culture — and maybe it's just modern life everywhere — but there’s this huge pressure to always be doing something, right? We feel like we have to be productive, busy, hustling, achieving. If you’re just sitting still, you feel like maybe you’re failing or being lazy. But lately, I've realized something truly beautiful and totally counter-intuitive: sometimes, the most productive thing you can do for your soul, and your femininity, is to just stop . To embrace the art of "doing nothing." I don't mean just scrolling on your phone, because that's still doing something. I mean truly resting. Sitting without an agenda. Staring out the window. Maybe lying down for twenty minutes and just letting your mind wander, without trying to solve a problem or plan the next hour. It’s in these moments of quiet pause that the magic happens. Your mind gets a chance to catch up with your body. Your nervous system calms down. And th...
Hey everyone, I was sitting by the window this morning, watching the world outside. Things are moving, as they always do, but everything feels a little more intentional lately. I've been reflecting on how much pressure we put on ourselves to "bloom" overnight, to have everything figured out, to be at our best, to have that perfectly polished life. But nature doesn't rush, and I’m beginning to realize that we shouldn't, either. There is such a beautiful, quiet dignity in trusting the slow growth of our own hearts. It’s like tending to a garden that you can’t see changing from day to day, but you know there’s life happening deep beneath the soil. It’s about being patient with your own healing, your own learning, and your own becoming. When we stop racing to reach some finish line that doesn't even exist, we finally have the space to actually feel our lives. We start to notice the tiny details: the way the light catches the dust motes in the afternoon, the gen...